Thursday, April 17, 2014

WOMEN OVERCOMPASATE AT TIMES



Every woman has felt embarrassed by appearing too needy with a man. Every woman has had a man pursue her, only to lose interest the minute she gave in. Every woman knows what it feels like to be taken for granted. You are not the first neither will you be the last one. Fact of the matter is this guy doesn’t love you doll.” Gladys told Melissa
Gladys I have always been strong like a steel inside yet kind outside,you know that strength that is ever so Subtle,but this guy has made me vulnerable,I cant think straight,no one has ever made me feel this much.”Melissa replied

Melissa was confused as she believes that the eyes are the gateway to the soul and she could see this through the eyes of Kennedy. She saw love in his eyes every time they locked together. He normally give her a dopey look which made her face light up and normally smiles back at him. The eyes give an emotional connect that the face can give and words cannot explain. Their souls are entwined through the eyes when they exchange glances.

Lets call a spade a spade, and ask yourself this questions,Has the guy approached you? Has he claimed his love for you? Has he wanted to go out on a date with you? Does he call you everyday to know how you are doing and whats going on with your life? Sweets I believe he doesn’t do that,am right dear? Gladys paused , “ Love does not communicate through the eyes only,action is eloquence.”


These words evoked some traumatizing moments Melissa had with Kennedy the guy who arouses her every ounce of her body. Melissa was hit by this words like lightning striking a tree into pieces and like a thief stealing from himself and got caught by himself. These words were so true yet hurting and she felt embarrassed for lying to herself for long. She recalled how she had gone berserk,throwing things about the apartment when she sent the guy-Kennedy a whats-app message and he didn’t reply to her yet she could see him online. Thanks to whoever created whats-app as you are in a position to stalk and know who was online and what time but also its a killer to women as they are the ultimate stalkers especially when one has a wondering heart. Melissa clung to her phone that night awaiting a message from Kennedy but he never replied back. She slept a very lonesome lady that,cursing Kennedy for not replying her back and hating herself for the desperate measure. She felt like she was chasing a man yet he had given all the hints that he was so much into her. She hated herself for applying hintish language which apparently is understood by women only,not men.

Gladys broke the silence by telling Melissa, “The problem with us ladies is when a guy appears to be interested in us we tend to think they are into us of which they just like us as friends and admire our company only when they want to not always. They call us only when they feel like they need to check on us not because they really need us. But we tend to think since he calls us once or twice a week he is into us. Capital no. They too need female friends. Kennedy is such a man Mel,He just needs a friend,a girl who is his friend not a lover and the early you understand this the better you will free yourself from this heartache.”

Falling in love is just like going crazy. We get a new perspective or paradigm. Life seems always in budding -blooming ;but heart breaks it is like booming -blasting. With the soft and sweet feeling of love there are negative feelings like fear of rejection, loosing are dearly attached. It is the duality of love. Scientifically it might only be adrenaline rush but emotionally it is something we all crave, no matter how wretched we are. Loving is losing your ego, self -centeredness, even your weight sometimes .

Ben who had been quite listening to his friend penting up her anger towards all men,advised Melissa that she needs to have a mental challenge,she should know what she wants but shouldn’t compromise herself to get it. Men are hunters in nature,and women are to be hunted not the reversed role. This is just nature and should not be tampered with no matter how equal the female species perceive to be. There can never be equality in the chase game. Never. A woman should be flowery in the outside and steel on the inside.
Grace intuitively agreed with Ben,while Melissa was still trying to swallow the naked truth.
Mel,women are the ones who drive the relationship train,they are the ones who say where we get on and where we get off but we men are the ones to start the train. We hold the key then the direction to follow is women's,” Ben continued, “ when you master this sweets ,no man will ever take advantage of you. Mark you am saying this as a man.”

Melissa knew deep down what her friend were advising was true but she also believed that Kennedy liked her a lot but doesn’t want to tell her as he wanted to hunt her. She felt very bad being a woman as you cant say what is in their your hurt until you are hunted down. Unfair. She understood that she needs to stop to subtly devalue herself by ceasing to give Kennedy unnecessary attention in her life. She decided to have a presence of mind so as not to be swept by a romantic fantasy which is a buster to female species.

I need to understand me and know whether am capable of holding me in a relationship as I have noted I have a wondering heart that’s why am this vulnerable to hints via the eye contact,”Melissa finally said
She understood why men will always want what they cant have .When a woman seems Nonchalant it becomes a challenge for men to win her affection.
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