“Every woman has
felt embarrassed by appearing too needy with a man. Every woman has
had a man pursue her, only to lose interest the minute she gave in.
Every woman knows what it feels like to be taken for granted. You are
not the first neither will you be the last one. Fact of the matter is
this guy doesn’t love you doll.” Gladys told Melissa
“Gladys I have
always been strong like a steel inside yet kind outside,you know that
strength that is ever so Subtle,but this guy has made me vulnerable,I
cant think straight,no one has ever made me feel this much.”Melissa
replied
Melissa was confused
as she believes that the eyes are the gateway to the soul and she
could see this through the eyes of Kennedy. She saw love in his eyes
every time they locked together. He normally give her a dopey look
which made her face light up and normally smiles back at him. The
eyes give an emotional connect that the face can give and words
cannot explain. Their souls are entwined through the eyes when they
exchange glances.
“Lets call a spade
a spade, and ask yourself this questions,Has the guy approached you?
Has he claimed his love for you? Has he wanted to go out on a date
with you? Does he call you everyday to know how you are doing and
whats going on with your life? Sweets I believe he doesn’t do
that,am right dear? Gladys paused , “ Love does not communicate
through the eyes only,action is eloquence.”
These words evoked
some traumatizing moments Melissa had with Kennedy the guy who
arouses her every ounce of her body. Melissa was hit by this words
like lightning striking a tree into pieces and like a thief stealing
from himself and got caught by himself. These words were so true yet
hurting and she felt embarrassed for lying to herself for long. She
recalled how she had gone berserk,throwing things about the apartment
when she sent the guy-Kennedy a whats-app message and he didn’t
reply to her yet she could see him online. Thanks to whoever created
whats-app as you are in a position to stalk and know who was online
and what time but also its a killer to women as they are the ultimate
stalkers especially when one has a wondering heart. Melissa clung to
her phone that night awaiting a message from Kennedy but he never
replied back. She slept a very lonesome lady that,cursing Kennedy for
not replying her back and hating herself for the desperate measure.
She felt like she was chasing a man yet he had given all the hints
that he was so much into her. She hated herself for applying hintish
language which apparently is understood by women only,not men.
Gladys broke the
silence by telling Melissa, “The problem with us ladies is when a
guy appears to be interested in us we tend to think they are into us
of which they just like us as friends and admire our company only
when they want to not always. They call us only when they feel like
they need to check on us not because they really need us. But we tend
to think since he calls us once or twice a week he is into us.
Capital no. They too need female friends. Kennedy is such a man
Mel,He just needs a friend,a girl who is his friend not a lover and
the early you understand this the better you will free yourself from
this heartache.”
Falling in love is
just like going crazy. We get a new perspective or paradigm. Life
seems always in budding -blooming ;but heart breaks it is like
booming -blasting. With the soft and sweet feeling of love there are
negative feelings like fear of rejection, loosing are dearly
attached. It is the duality of love. Scientifically it might only be
adrenaline rush but emotionally it is something we all crave, no
matter how wretched we are. Loving is losing your ego, self
-centeredness, even your weight sometimes .
Ben who had been
quite listening to his friend penting up her anger towards all
men,advised Melissa that she needs to have a mental challenge,she
should know what she wants but shouldn’t compromise herself to get
it. Men are hunters in nature,and women are to be hunted not the
reversed role. This is just nature and should not be tampered with no
matter how equal the female species perceive to be. There can never
be equality in the chase game. Never. A woman should be flowery in
the outside and steel on the inside.
Grace intuitively
agreed with Ben,while Melissa was still trying to swallow the naked
truth.
“Mel,women are the
ones who drive the relationship train,they are the ones who say where
we get on and where we get off but we men are the ones to start the
train. We hold the key then the direction to follow is women's,”
Ben continued, “ when you master this sweets ,no man will ever take
advantage of you. Mark you am saying this as a man.”
Melissa knew deep
down what her friend were advising was true but she also believed
that Kennedy liked her a lot but doesn’t want to tell her as he
wanted to hunt her. She felt very bad being a woman as you cant say
what is in their your hurt until you are hunted down. Unfair. She
understood that she needs to stop to subtly devalue herself by
ceasing to give Kennedy unnecessary attention in her life. She
decided to have a presence of mind so as not to be swept by a
romantic fantasy which is a buster to female species.
“I need to
understand me and know whether am capable of holding me in a
relationship as I have noted I have a wondering heart that’s why am
this vulnerable to hints via the eye contact,”Melissa finally said
She understood why
men will always want what they cant have .When a woman seems
Nonchalant it becomes a challenge for men to win her affection.
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