"Its that ditzy neighbor Jane who is so flickery and forgetful that her sincere effort often results into silly mistakes" she thinks.She wakes up from her favorite couch to go and attend to the uninvited guest,who dares show up at 10 am on a Saturday morning-the time Mary loves her space alone for catching up with her favorite movies as she enjoys her favorite wine Pinot noir-One of the noblest red wine in her exquisite antique glass to savor the best in life.
Coming near the door in a fowl mood,Mary inhales a familiar cologne- smelt of freshly cut grass at the heart of evergreen forest, which has suffused the atmosphere,the scent was comforting...attractive...irresistible.that seemed to cleanse her fears away of the intruder being Jane .She opened the door gladly and her best friend Peter is standing at the door,his eyes are not what they are used to be,he looked weary.
"Come in Pet,"She said as she helped him with the sack he carried in his hands.
"I have brought lunch as am spending the day here sweetheart if you don't mind."
"Pliz.give me a break,you know you are always welcomed here anytime dear.''
Mary studies Peter for a moment as she pours him a glass of the Pinot-noir to make him feel at home.Peter looked very empty,the same way When we are hungry for food, our stomach growls, we get an empty feeling in the pits of our stomachs, we can't stop thinking about food, and sometimes it even hurts.He looked lost,with no sense of direction.
Silence........
"I feel lonely,cold,frozen,void of true emotions"Peter finally ended the silence
It hurts to feel lonely but it heart more if you have no one to share with.Loneliness can be overwhelming, so overwhelming in fact that lonely individuals feel like they are about to burst! feeling as if one is going to break apart at any minute.How agonizing this must be! It's like blowing up a balloon past its normal capacity.
"Talk to me,my soul is ready to listen and help where it can" Mary said
Peter has always been sharing his marital affairs with Mary as she has always been a good listener and always advising him and helping him understand women,who are the most complex and capricious species of human kind.Mary and Peter have been friends since childhood and their families have known each other for decades.
"Jessica has left me and this time for good,I cant leave without her,she makes me whole.She just completes me."
Jessica is one of the complicated women alive,the crazy type a man will continue to chase because she is attractive,ravishing,so good looking that men want to seize her and carry her off by force.Her demeanor is shy, yet confident and so sweet.Her body type is slender and feminine. She has beautiful, full eyebrows that frame her face, and a smile that is kind and genuine.The texture of her skin is soft which is not killed by the sun.Peter and Jessica having been married for one and half an year.
"Peter; hopefully this time its not your fault,Jessica is a good woman and a caring one which apparently we both know," she sips her wine and continues",what led to the breakup?"
"Its just Satan,he entered my nerves again,leading me to hit Jessica for asking my whereabouts" He pauses as if he is waiting for the said Satan to give him insights on how to explain the happenings to Mary,"I did not sleep home on Thursday night as I was having drinks with my friends at a local pub along Baricho road."
"listening."
"Jessica had warned me severally not to sleep out but I don't know why I do it anyway.I just find myself sleeping at Kevin's place and don't take me wrong I don't do inorganic love,am so straight." He inhales deeply,"she thinks am cheating on her of which I have on several occasion not that I don't love her but I cant just control the presence of voluptuous,curvy and sultry woman.my lust for such women shoots to the peak."
This is so hard a task.Mary told Peter hitting Jessica was a very naive move and by sleeping out severally was a wrong direction and he was blowing off the candles he lit one by one from the time he met Jessica.She further told him lust is not a condition ab but a bad habit which has infected his mentality and what he needs to do is do a revolution psychology if he really wants to have a healthy and long lasting relationship.Then again he needed to control his temper as Life provides men with an endless supply of things to get angry about.
"Pet,I have warned you about anger and its consequences.You really need to control this.Hitting a woman is the unwisest thing a man can ever do in this world.It crashes all the love she feel for you and loathes you instead.At other times if she stays with you she does so because of fear not love."
Mary asked Peter to practice self awareness as is the ability to notice what you're feeling and thinking, and why.then have self control which is all about thinking before you act. It puts some precious seconds or minutes between feeling a strong emotion and taking an action you'll regret.
" Together, self-awareness and self-control allow you to have more choice about how to act when you're feeling an intense emotion like anger." Mary told Peter
These insights were to help Peter deal with his problem in a profound way.This time he was to do in accordance with Mary"s advice as he realized overtly that Jessica was not bluffing but leaving for good.He intuitively understood Jessica last words before she left their matrimonial home,"Whats left to break when the heart is broken,whats left to say when every word has been said." The thought of losing Jessica for life made him vulnerable that's why he came to see Mary to help him talk to her.
"I cant assure you that Jessica will come back but I will try to talk her out,understand her pain and her plans for you,"Mary breathed in deeply knowing this is so hard a task but will do it for her childhood friend hoping he will keep his words and treat a lady the way she is supposed to be treated,"I wish you well in this battled of the mental challenge."
shading light in wat is happening in marriages today.
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